I’ve learned how to listen – and not immediately solve – my children’s problems by silently repeating every word they say to me. That centers my mind, forcing me to be present, rather than solving their matrix.
I try to ask open-ended questions. It’s hard for me. I don’t have the plumbing to merely listen. If I do mentally solve the issue, I don’t share it. I return to repeating their words in my mind.
As they grow, their issues scale too. Even small purchases have the ability to affect them calamitously. Yet I try not to react immediately. Listen – repeat – listen.
– Jeff Arnold, The Arizona 100